IF SHE HAD ONLY KNOWN


It only matters when it affects you. 

Several years ago before New York City mandated access ramps for the disabled, carriages, etc., I lived in a co-op that was renovating the entry and lobby. The entryway had about three steps to access the lobby and the only way for residents in wheel chairs, on walkers or crutches and moms with baby carriages could navigate the stairs was with the doormen physically lifting the chairs/and/or carriages.  The fact that this was against the union rules because the men might hurt themselves was of no issue to the residents and the doormen did this on a daily basis.

The question before the Board of Directors, in addition to the design and cost of the renovation was: “Should we install a ramp?  After endless discussion (board issues are typically endlessly discussed), some thought it a fine idea, others did not. The cost was negligible but they didn’t have to do it because the ordinance was not yet in effect

So refusing to make a decision, they decided to take a vote of all the shareholders. A memo was dispatched and the results tallied.  The ramp lost which frankly amazed me. Where was the compassion of all my fellow shareholders? Obviously non-existent. Of course those who had this problem voted yea as did empathetic others but the vast majority nixed it.

Now there was an older couple living in the building that I occasionally saw either in the lobby or neighborhood. I jokingly referred to the wife as “The Hat Lady” because no matter the season, she always wore a hat and high heels if only to cross the street to the local D’Agostino’s. Her husband seemed like a nice fellow in good health.

Then one evening returning from work, I saw the doorman lift a wheelchair down the steps. In it was the husband. As I watched the doorman struggle with the wheel chair, I casually said to The Hat Lady: “Isn’t it too bad the residents voted against the ramp?” Her response?

“If I had only known then.” 


It’s an old story. It’s only important if it affects me.

No comments:

Post a Comment